How to ask a girl out for a date?

[kerosam]

i have a saturday morning ritual of going to a particular cafe for morning coffee and breakfast... rain or shine. recently, i have accidentally took notice of this friendly waitress in the cafe (not sure how long she has been there)... she is friendly to customers and seem to be quite well like by her colleagues... note: if anyone is guessing, i don't have a habit of spotting and dating chicks who work in cafes! it just hits me from no where one saturday, making me notice her.

well i do spend a bit of times in cafes at times to read the Saturday's papers and AFR (fair dinkum, no bull) and if time allows, i'll read the Australian weekend as well.

anyhow, i intend (not sure yet cos a bit rusty in the dating game) to ask this girl out... just for drinks or a lunch... i think dinner or a weekend would be too stressful for me, unless someone think otherwise. and i'm just lost in where to start... i don't know much about her e.g. boyfriend etc...

just thought some of the forumites might have some wise advice on how to get it rolling. good idea or bad?:

 

[RichKid]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

i have a saturday morning ritual of going to a particular cafe for morning coffee and breakfast... rain or shine. recently, i have accidentally took notice of this friendly waitress in the cafe (not sure how long she has been there)... she is friendly to customers and seem to be quite well like by her colleagues... note: if anyone is guessing, i don't have a habit of spotting and dating chicks who work in cafes! it just hits me from no where one saturday, making me notice her.

well i do spend a bit of times in cafes at times to read the Saturday's papers and AFR (fair dinkum, no bull) and if time allows, i'll read the Australian weekend as well.

anyhow, i intend (not sure yet cos a bit rusty in the dating game) to ask this girl out... just for drinks or a lunch... i think dinner or a weekend would be too stressful for me, unless someone think otherwise. and i'm just lost in where to start... i don't know much about her e.g. boyfriend etc...

just thought some of the forumites might have some wise advice on how to get it rolling. good idea or bad?:

Hey Kero,
If you're a bit shy you could try asking the other staff about her if you know any that you think are approachable or chat to another regular at the cafe, they may know something about her to help you start a conversation, often the old ladies or gents that frequent cafes would strike up conversations with the 'young ones' so they'll know a bit about the staff too- do your research!!

But really, the best thing would be to try to talk to her about anything, but don't ask about the boyfriend, if she has one and isn't interested in you she's sure to mention him.

Whatever you do don't spill hot coffee on yourself or something like that while talking to her- unless it gets a laugh out of her and some affection!

Sorry I can't be more devious, don't know what I'd do in a similar situation, I'm not really an expert in these things. I think this is one for the ladies on ASF- c'mon, help ol kero out here girls!

 

[son of baglimit]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

1. lose the afr - trust me.
2. dont admit you asked a share trading forum for advice.
3. wear a piece of clothing that would become a talking point - eg sombrero
4. a reminder, point 2 is important.
5. stalk her for a week, just to get a better idea of who she is.
6. ask her sister out just to get to know her better too.

report back to all of us.

 

[Ageo]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

5. stalk her for a week, just to get a better idea of who she is.


report back to all of us.

lol he wants to ask her out not rape her

 

[dutchie]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

1. Ask her if she drinks coffee or is sick of it because of work.
(i.e. start up a conversation about coffee).

2a. If she does like coffee then ask her if you can shout her one at another cafe where she will be served.

2b. If she doesn't like coffee then find out what she does like to drink and offer to shout her that at the local pub/bistro/winebar.

This is not too heavy for a first date and you have a ready conversation starter in regard to her work, how this place stacks up etc. etc.

3. Don't be afraid to ask (she may be interested in you) and the worst that can happen is she politely says no and you are no worse off.

4. Hava go Kero!!!!

Good luck

Dutchie

 

[wayneL]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

1/ Don't be nice to her. Girls don't like dating friends.

2/ Be cocky. Girls like self confidence.

3/ Be funny. Girls like to laugh.

If she doesn't like you, move on.

 

[It's Snake Pliskin]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Kerosam,

Walk up to her and complement her and give her your number and say:

"I noticed that you are stunning and I would like to get to know you, so here is my number and feel free to call me. If you don't call that's ok too. Please have a nice day, bye"

Just do it, life is too short.

Snake Pliskin

 

[RichKid]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

1. lose the afr - trust me.
2. dont admit you asked a share trading forum for advice.
3. wear a piece of clothing that would become a talking point - eg sombrero
4. a reminder, point 2 is important.
5. stalk her for a week, just to get a better idea of who she is.
6. ask her sister out just to get to know her better too.

report back to all of us.

You crack me up SOB, I bet your missus appreciates your sense of humour!!?? (although we should warn all other women of you as a public service- parliament should legislate to have you wear a red sign like 'Keep Clear! Baglimit Cometh').

 

[MattThomson]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Well I've never asked a girl out, they've all sorta just fallen into my lap My current girlfriend (of 1.5 years) and I just hooked up at a party after being friends for a few years so I havn't had much chance to ask girls out (I think she'd get mad). All previous girlfriends put the moves on me so I've been lucky that way . Anyway one of the best ways that I've been asked out is just to be handed a phone number on a sheet of paper, nothing said. It's easy to do I guess, and you could probably do it when you pay for the coffee, just write it on the back of the receipt and hand it to her. Good luck.

 

[$unny]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

son of baglimit

i think u said it the best!

 

[tech/a]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

http://www.ask-girl-out.com/

Here is all you'll ever need.

"Bags" ( an absolute sage).
"Matt" I ve worked out what you do for a living and its NOT accountancy.
Think Ive seen you in the "Classifieds".Moonlighting as "Steve"

Lets give it a couple of weeks and I look forward to when the next topic is SURE to come up.

Step 2 "SEDUCTION"

 

[tech/a]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Duck savvy is as you know ledgendary.

Here are a few of my lines you may find useful.

I've just moved you to the top of my 'to do' list.

nice set of legs, what time do they open?

That outfit would look great in a crumpled heap next to my bed.

I know that Milk does the body good, but wow, how much you been drinking?

I'd like to name a multiple orgasm after you.

Excuse me. My friend over there is a little embarrassed. She'd like your phone number. She wants to know where she can get a hold of me in the morning.

Let's face it. I'm hot, you're hot and we both know you got a crush on me. And really, who can blame you with a gorgeous face like this. So can I snatch a kiss or vice-versa (that is kiss a snatch).

Hey baby,our sex will be so good the NEIGHBORS will be having a cigarette when we're done.

Brazillians are my preference,so Remember that, as there will be an oral exam later.

Do you sleep on your stomach? [any answer] Can I?

If it's true that we are what we eat, then I could be you by morning.

I'm gonna have sex with you tonight so, you might as well be there.

How about you and I go back to my place and get out of these wet clothes?

I'm 100% Aussi. Do you have any Aussi in you? Would you like some?

There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can't take them off you.

 

[visual]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

tech,
when these lines have worked have you also had a credit card in your hands :knightrid

 

[GreatPig]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Kerosam,

Not sure I'd recommend the Duck's technique with someone you're actually interested in, but I think initially just concentrate on two main things:

1. Talk to her.

2. Talk about her, and things she's interested in (which means also listen to what she says).

In general, talk "feelings" not "actions". Talk about what she likes and how she feels about things, not just what she's been doing, etc. Avoid negative topics though. Keep it positive, light, and funny (although don't come across as the town buffoon either).

And whatever you do, don't sound desperate!! Remember, you're trying to do her a favour!

GP

 

[macca]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Buy a single rose and take it in for her.

If she asks why, say "I come here each week and you are always so nice, you brighten my day", I thought I would try to brighten yours "

If she is interested you will soon notice as she will act differently with you from then on.

ps: if she starts talking to you about whatever, LISTEN !!!! look into her eyes and pay attention to what she is saying, women LOVE men that actually listen to them instead of watching that other nice chick crossing the road behind them

Good luck

 

[3 veiws of a secret]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Your mission is to boldly go where lots have been too..........
This is what I would do!
Find out if she has a boyfriend or husband,or a fancy "De F'cto" just ask her out straight,using a bit of diplomacy naturally.If she admits to not having either then that solves one problem .
I personally would also try and find out what shifts she works,from her work mates ....again diplomacy ......and if your serious about her who cares a SFA if your stressed ,busy with work.....at least knowing that you are going out with her latter would releive the stress in many ways then one!
:whip

 

[Realist]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Ok words from an expert.. (a single desperate expert that is )

Don't ask her out..............yet


Chat to her, get to know a bit about her (like if she is seeing someone).

Introduce yourself and tell her a bit about you (lie a bit, and don't mention this forum)

Find a common interest (even lie if you have to "yeah sure I love knitting")

Then take your time, do not act too interested, act nice and friendly though. But cool also, not desperate!!

Then maybe the third time you meet her chat away all friendly like then say something like "Oh yeah I really want to check out this new bar/cafe called blahblah or I know this excellent place that has great blahblah, we must go there sometime, it is really good!!"

Try and sell the place more than asking her out, like "yeah yeah you must come it is so good", sounds better than "would you like to go out with me please".

 

[dutchie]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

Quote from RK -

"I think this is one for the ladies on ASF- c'mon, help ol kero out here girls!"

With all this good advice it looks like the blokes have got it pretty well covered!!

Cheers

Dutchie

 

[Rafa]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

two things are most important...
1. make sure she notices you...
2. make sure she laughs, after you say/do something funny..

the above can be achieved by diliberately spilling coffee on yourself... followed by a well reahearsed slapstick routine and then a nice one liner abour her distracting you... and then, get straight to the point....

if you can handle that well enough, your a shoe in...

you just gotta do it...
and not worry about the consequences...

there's plenty of other coffer shops around

 

[visual]

Re: - How to ask a girl out for a date?

ok,
not only do you want her to think he`s clumsy,
but also you want her to think that he`s stalking her.

sorry I know not advice,but if this is the best you guys can do no wonder there so many desperate guys out there.

I mean,why not ask her name,get to know her like any other person,and then take it from there if she is interested you`ll know soon enough if she isnt well then change coffee shop.no smaltzy lines,complicated routines anyway thats my