Family Stress and Teenage Self Harm and Suicide

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The world is too soft so lines are blurred
Equality leads to inequality of those who WERE equal

Need I go on?

Yes, the lines are blurred no doubt about that, it seems that migrants get special protection under 18C but the rest of us are supposed to suck it up.

Personally I am filthy with the decay of Christian values over the past decades in which I was raised.

Society has broken down to a point in which responsibility for ones own actions and lack of morals fail to restrain despicable acts of injustice performed by folk with low levels of intellect against good willed and law abiding citizens.

Im 48, have had my fair share of road rage incidents, standing up for innocent folk, dealing aggressively with devious folk who owe myself money, defending my children against thugs (one aggressive incident involving guys with "tough man stickers"), wasting my former Parents In-law in court who accused my wife of thief and fraud (to clarify she was also innocent of contrived claims),.........this had happened after she had been their POA and they were repeatedly told after investigations she had done no wrong.

My youngest boy is 10, I sometimes pick him up from school and see the low life pieces of trash covered in tough person stickers who park their cars across household driveways so all have to walk around their cars that are over footpaths, you just know these type are future divorcees who are wage earners and cigarette smokers and would lack comprehension as to why blocking a walkway could inconvenience physically disabled folk some trouble, common sense, concerns for young folk as they walk around front of car and it starts, as also the obvious "Do to others as you would have done to you"

Anyone posted the effects of drugs and the listlessness and susceptibility to unconcious self harm that the chemicals induce Int the brain? Even prescription depression drugs have a numbing effect on self preservation

Calming down...

My daughter was slashing her wrists with a blade when she was a young teen, we were told first from a young male friend of hers, my wife is very proactive, took time, my daughter is intellectually slower than others so tended to cop bully behavior towards herself, I admit, flippin tough to deal with as a parent, my wife is so supportive and able to listen and act, made the schools help and assist to take action to sort.

Our daughter is now 18 and a half, has a boyfriend of 2 months and seems pleasant guy, she worked previously for the most well known fast food chain but had to leave due to the "Bully" culture within, she has now been working for a few months at "Pak & Save" and it is an excellent working environment.
Life is good for her.

I thought this article offered a good structure and practical advice on supporting children.

Parents need a strength switch: to help them and their kids
Focusing on what children do well helps them to behave better – and you to parent well, says Lea Waters


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Lea Waters


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Sunday 10 September 2017 06.00 BST

When will he ever learn? That was my thought as I arrived home and saw that my eight-year-old son Nick had failed to put away his new bicycle… again. The day before, I’d snapped: “I’m tired of reminding you about this!” Then, seeing his welcoming smile fade, I’d felt like a terrible parent.

Why is it so hard to control the urge to criticise our children – and is there a better way? I’m constantly asked these questions at my parent talks. The culprit is ancient brain wiring – and yes, there is a better way.

We evolved to have a “negativity bias”, zeroing in on what’s wrong as a way to protect ourselves and our tribe. Add to this the constant social pressure to raise perfectly behaved, accomplished kids, and many parents feel as if they have to be in “fix-it” mode all the time.

My research has shown we can override this impulse and implement a far more powerful, positive strategy called “strength-based parenting” that helps children improve by focusing on their strengths.

We have evolved with a ‘negativity bias’, zeroing in on what’s wrong as a way to protect ourselves

A strength isn’t just something your child is good at. Psychologists have defined three characteristics of a strength: your child does it well (high performance), happily (high energy) and often (high use). Strengths can be talent-based, such as sports or art, or character-based, such as humour or kindness.

More and more schools are teaching strengths. A study of more than 300 secondary school students in the UK, published in the Journal of Positive Psychology in 2011, found teens who were taught about their strengths had significantly higher life satisfaction than their peers who did not. Similar results have been found in the USA, Australia, New Zealand, Israel, Japan and China.

Parents benefit, too. In one of my studies, published in the International Journal of Applied Positive Psychology, parents who undertook a strength-based parenting course were happier and more confident about their parenting skills. Learning to consistently see their child’s strengths allowed them to find the sweet spots where their kids could thrive.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/sep/10/parents-needs-a-strength-switch

Karlos68 said:

Personally I am filthy with the decay of Christian values over the past decades in which I was raised.

Society has broken down to a point in which responsibility for ones own actions and lack of morals fail to restrain despicable acts of injustice performed by folk with low levels of intellect against good willed and law abiding citizens.

Im 48, have had my fair share of road rage incidents, standing up for innocent folk, dealing aggressively with devious folk who owe myself money, defending my children against thugs (one aggressive incident involving guys with "tough man stickers"), wasting my former Parents In-law in court who accused my wife of thief and fraud (to clarify she was also innocent of contrived claims),.........this had happened after she had been their POA and they were repeatedly told after investigations she had done no wrong.

My youngest boy is 10, I sometimes pick him up from school and see the low life pieces of trash covered in tough person stickers who park their cars across household driveways so all have to walk around their cars that are over footpaths, you just know these type are future divorcees who are wage earners and cigarette smokers and would lack comprehension as to why blocking a walkway could inconvenience physically disabled folk some trouble, common sense, concerns for young folk as they walk around front of car and it starts, as also the obvious "Do to others as you would have done to you"

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The Australian language has changed too; it reflects the new hedonistically inspired social classes and corresponding attitudes that have emerged here & the self branding that goes with them (ageism aside):

entrenched working class
entrenched middle class
mobile middle class
upwardly affluent
entrenched affluent

Our emerging dialect reflects the attitude of a self indulgent society that professes social egalitarianism, but does so through institutions, endless studies and govt rather than in person interaction. We are retro accenting our words into an ocher style as a way to stay connected to a fable of a fair go classless society, which is just another way of exonerating ourselves from personal citizenship, care and empathy.

14 Mar 2024 #BidenHarris2024 #JoeBiden
Harry, I’ve struggled with a stutter all of my life. Thank you for telling me about yours, and don’t let anyone tell you it will stop you from achieving your dreams.

noirua said:

14 Mar 2024 #BidenHarris2024 #JoeBiden
Harry, I’ve struggled with a stutter all of my life. Thank you for telling me about yours, and don’t let anyone tell you it will stop you from achieving your dreams.

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I have mixed feelings about Biden giving speech advice.