Craton
Mostly passive, contrarian.
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Interesting thread and indeed, what and how would we blokes take it if our other half leaves us or dies.
The my first and only wife, the mother of my kids has been dead for neigh on 14 years, taken by the big C and, even though we didn't quite get to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary, I miss her every day. She was one very special lady, a fantastic mother, had great work ethic, wasn't too house proud but ran a tight and spotless ship and still loved by all who knew her.
Above all, she was the light of my life and gave me reason to face the world full on every day.
Even though I've managed to snare another filly, a fellow widower, my sails are still somewhat flat, life has lost a lot of its shine and I've a deep saddness that haunts me everyday.
All that we had strived for, what we had planned to do in our later years, appears all for naught and somehow seems wasted.
I know that sounds morbid and distraught but I'm still a glass half full type of guy. Self termination is never an option and why would I?
Even though they live some 500+kms away, my two children have given me five of their own, for me to enjoy and then hand back, lol.
Also on the plus side, my new partner of 10+ years, a widower for twice as long as I've been, she has brought love and laughter back into my life and it's funny, as we both share that deep sense of loss, that yearning for what could have been, being with her has eased that angst of burying my one and only wife.
My partner and I have both never been divorced, been married and widowed only the once and we are in no rush to do the marriage thing all over again. We're just thankful that we have found love again and have given each other the ability to face the day with purpose, with a grin and a smile because let's face it, we are all (well most of us are) looking for love, to feel connected, to share our lives with someone dear and special to us.
My one key takeaway from all this.
Life is simple, when love's involved!
The my first and only wife, the mother of my kids has been dead for neigh on 14 years, taken by the big C and, even though we didn't quite get to celebrate our 30th wedding anniversary, I miss her every day. She was one very special lady, a fantastic mother, had great work ethic, wasn't too house proud but ran a tight and spotless ship and still loved by all who knew her.
Above all, she was the light of my life and gave me reason to face the world full on every day.
Even though I've managed to snare another filly, a fellow widower, my sails are still somewhat flat, life has lost a lot of its shine and I've a deep saddness that haunts me everyday.
All that we had strived for, what we had planned to do in our later years, appears all for naught and somehow seems wasted.
I know that sounds morbid and distraught but I'm still a glass half full type of guy. Self termination is never an option and why would I?
Even though they live some 500+kms away, my two children have given me five of their own, for me to enjoy and then hand back, lol.
Also on the plus side, my new partner of 10+ years, a widower for twice as long as I've been, she has brought love and laughter back into my life and it's funny, as we both share that deep sense of loss, that yearning for what could have been, being with her has eased that angst of burying my one and only wife.
My partner and I have both never been divorced, been married and widowed only the once and we are in no rush to do the marriage thing all over again. We're just thankful that we have found love again and have given each other the ability to face the day with purpose, with a grin and a smile because let's face it, we are all (well most of us are) looking for love, to feel connected, to share our lives with someone dear and special to us.
My one key takeaway from all this.
Life is simple, when love's involved!