It is somewhat bewildering when you stubble across someone putting together 500 odd words of basic knowledge that any halfwit knows once they are about 20 as if it has some special value to this community.
I guess a person could think its condescending and extremely disrespectful to talk to others in such a socially deficient, awkward and and outright passive aggressive way but therein in lies the truth. We are dealing with someone that needs 'special consideration'......... to use a politicly correct term.
If it wasn't such a reoccurring pattern of stating the bleedingly obvious..... maybe. But it is a subtle tactic Whiskers has refined to get at others. Frankly it doesn't bother me but like I said it seems somewhere in the area of passive aggressive... internet troll style..... JMHO. :kebab
Just to clarify a couple of facts... Most of that from my previous post is not my words. All the indented text is actually cut and paste from the links provided. They are but a couple of businesses and universities providing expert knowledge and training for other businesses to improve their staff performance.
If it was such "
basic knowledge that any halfwit knows once they are about 20", these businesses and thousands like them around the world would not be in business today, would they?
It's probably a good time to mention that 'conflict
resolution' is only part of a wider process of 'Dispute/conflict
management'.
Dispute/conflict management also includes compulsory arbitration or litigation, when a conflict resolution process breaks down.
Without giving too much of my private life away, I will say apart from some graduate qualification in Human Resource Management (HRM), my extra curricular qualification is in the field of "The Technology of Participation (ToP) ®", similar to here:
https://icausa.memberclicks.net/assets/docs/top brochure.pdf
ToP Facilitation Methods are effective in an infinite number of situations. Used alone or creatively combined and adapted, they serve as powerful tools for groups to think and work together in innovative and productive ways. The methods can be scaled to work with virtually any size group, from one to hundreds.
Overcoming Anger- Learning how to disconnect those "hot buttons"...
Expressing our anger can have a devastating effect on the lives of everyone involved. But anger is neither good nor bad. Anger is merely a front for something that is going on in the background.
When we get angry, it's because something has happened that has pushed a button. That button is either a past hurt or an insecurity we are carrying as a result of something that has occurred previously.
No one 'makes us angry' - we do it all by ourselves.
We are never upset or angry for the reason we think. It is not other people or situations that cause us to be angry or distressed. It is our own attitudes and thoughts.
Remember, it's not what happens to us in life - it's how we deal with it.
http://thecentrewithinsydney.com/anger.html
- one of the most common behavioural traits in conflict.
It is now widely accepted that in the face of fear people react with either "fght" or "flight". Faced with an uncomfortable situation people seldom consciously choose one or the other but have an automatic reaction. Flight has been describes as escape or retreat. But a frightened reaction can just as easily be attack or aggression - this is fight. [You were born special beautiful and wonderful What Happened?, Bert Weir with Charlie Scandrett, (p 51-53) (1993)]
The screen shot below from
http://www.emotionalcompetency.com/conflict.htm provides a bit more insight into the field of Technology of Participation, and in particular the art of whether or not one should, and also why some do and others do not chose to, 'ignore'.