Being in a philosophical state of mind, I've got to thinking about death, and specifically death of those referred to in GG's 9/11 thread.
Does the cause of an unexpected death change the emotion and the healing?
1. Your partner jumps in the car to go get some milk and is taken out by a drunk driver.
2. Mowing the lawn your partner is bitten by a snake and dies at the end of the paddock.
3. A loved one wilst at work dying in a 9/11 scenario.
4. An Iraqi national's loved one walking to the markets to get the day's grain is shot by UN soldiers who mistake them for a terrorist due the bag they are carrying.
Does the inability of being able to ever accept the death of the loved one suggest a fault in the surviving loved ones psychological makeup?
Does the ability to accept and find peace regarding the death in a timely manner suggest the surviving loved ones are weak or lack compassion?
Is it just a terrible grey area?
There are no right or wrong answer, I think. I'd enjoy any comments on this matter.